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New years resolutions have been a tradition for a long time now, but a lot of times people do not follow through with them. My wife and I were talking about this last night and we decided to make some changes for the new year. We were going to hold each other accountable for them throughout the year, that way if one of us started to slip we had someone who could get us back on track. It’s always good to have an accountability partner, it could be a family member or a close friend. We want this year to be the most prosperous and healthiest year of our lives. We sat down and we listed some categories that we got from David Ramsey and we started to fill in our goals for them for the up coming year.

These are the categories and a couple of the things that I wrote down for my own goals, I urge you to take this and write your own goals for 2013.

Goals For 2013

1. Career:

  • I want to start my own business (I’m not going out on a limb here, I have put a lot of thought into this prior to the list

2. financially:

  • Increase my tithe to 15%
  • increase my savings by $500.00 a month
  • Start a Roth IRA

3. Physically:

  • Use my gym membership
  • Run at least 3 times a week

4. Intellectually:

  • Read at least two books a month
  • Learn a new word everyday

5. Socially:

  • Attempt to make new friendship and build the ones I already have

6. Family:

  • Make contact with my immediate family weekly (My family lives in another state)
  • Have a Baby

7. Spiritually:

  • Nightly Prayer with my wife
  • Pray twice a week with my spouse concerning our future
  • Pray in the Holy Spirit at least one hour daily
  • Be more aware of the presence of God
  • Read through the bible in one year

This is just some examples for you, i hope that you take them and really think about what you would like to improve on in the upcoming year. I strongly believe that if you do this and stick with it you will grow in your CrossWalk and it will be the most prosperous and healthiest year yet. I would like to here some feed back from you and would like for you to tell me some of your new year resolutions.

Happy New Year!

Prayer is something that is often forgotten or overlooked in today’s christian world. I can tell you that there have been many times where I just don’t feel like praying. Whether it be because I think I’m not getting results or because I would rather do other things with my time. One night last week I came home from work and I had a very strenuous day so all I wanted to do was to just kick back and watch some football. Just kinda wanted to unwind from the day. After about 20 minutes my wife asked me if I wanted to turn off the TV so we both could read and pray. I really just wanted to chill and set mindlessly in front of the TV for a couple of hours, I didn’t feel like reading or praying. But my wife said something that really stuck with me. She said, “If you have had such a hard day that you are mentally and physically drained, shouldn’t you want to read and pray more than ever to refresh yourself. Instead you are setting in front of a TV that’s not beneficial.” She was exactly right, He is where i draw my strength and I will not get it from anywhere else.

So what is it that stops us from praying, some would say it’s the devil and that can be true. But most of the time it’s not the devil. It’s ourselves, we cause the distractions. For instance Friday i went and bought a new TV, 40 inch LED smart TV. I love it, but you know what? All i did was buy another distraction, a 40 inch distraction. Don’t get me wrong we all like to buy things. We all need our own personal things, but sometimes we overload ourselves with toys and never give ourselves the opportunity to unload ourselves in prayer. I’m not telling you that watching TV is bad, because i watch it too. I’m just saying that we need to watch out for those distractions that try to prevent us from our personal time with God.

It’s not only distractions that keep us from prayer, it’s ourselves. There have been numerous times that i have talked myself out of praying with the all to familiar conversation with yourself about how you don’t feel like it. Or you would rather be doing something else because you feel like your wasting time just because you’re not seeing results immediately. Or maybe your new to the whole christian life and you think praying is weird, thinking that you could really be talking to God. But that’s the beauty of it, you can talk to God. See when Jesus died for our sins on the cross His blood paid the price for us, which means that when we accept what He did for us we get the privilege to be able to commune with God. As an unworthy man, made worthy through the redemptive plan of Christ.

If you are new to the praying thing it will most likely be uncomfortable and awkward for you at first. But if you will make the effort to set a couple of times out in the day to be by yourself and just take the time to focus on him. It will pay off and it wont be weird for you. It will become like second nature to you, because you will be talking to your loving Father, and not just some far off angry god. (see Matt. 7:7-11 at the bottom of the text)

“but I always run out of things to say.” praying isn’t always about asking for stuff. Sometimes prayer can just be thanking God. Thanking Him for your salvation, or your health, your family and friends, etc. Praying can also be just talking to God about your day, what you did or didn’t do. Prayer will become more real to us if we pray to God like a father and talk to Him with thanksgiving and love, instead of only praying when we sinned or when we need something from Him.

If you are new to prayer i suggested that you read the following scriptures daily, I believe that i will help you with your prayer life.

  • Ephesians 1:15-23 “Therefore I also, hearing of your faith in the Lord Jesus and love to all the saints,  do not cease giving thanks for you, making mention of you in my prayers, that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give to you the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of Him, the eyes of your understanding being enlightened, that you may know what is the hope of His calling, and what is the riches of the glory of His inheritance in the saints, and what is the surpassing greatness of His power toward us, the ones believing according to the working of His mighty strength which He worked in Christ in raising Him from the dead, and He seated Him at His right hand in the heavenlies, far above all principality and authority and power and dominion, and every name being named, not only in this world, but also in the coming age. And He has put all things under His feet and gave Him to be Head over all things to the church, which is His body, the fullness of Him who fills all in all.”
  • Ephesians 3:14-21“For this cause I bow my knees to the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, of whom the whole family in Heaven and earth is named, that He would grant you, according to the riches of His glory, to be strengthened with might by His Spirit in the inner man; that Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth and length and depth and height, and to know the love of Christ which passes knowledge, that you might be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to Him who is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus throughout all ages, forever. Amen.”
  • Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not to your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.”
  • Matthew 7:7-11 “Ask and it shall be given to you; seek and you shall find; knock and it shall be opened to you. For each one who asks receives; and he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, it shall be opened. Or what man is there of you, if his son asks a loaf, will he give him a stone? Or if he asks a fish, will he give him a snake? If you then, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more shall your Father in Heaven give good things to those who ask Him?” 

So I Just encourage you this week just try to take some extra time and spend it with God. Just go somewhere private and just thank God for what you have, thank God for you salvation, health, and the people in life. Don’t put a time limit on it. if you were talking to someone who you really care about, and you were telling them all about how you love them and how much you appreciate all they have done for you. Then you look down at your watch and say. “Well that’s my five minutes, sorry…” or you Phone rings “Sorry i got to take this, it’s more important.” Just put your phone on silent and don’t look at the time. Just give God your undivided attention and He will listen.

Living with temptation is something that we as Christians can not avoid. Temptation is all around us, it comes in various forms. And Temptation can effect people differently. For instance, someone may be tempted to steal, but have no problem rejecting the thought of committing adultery. Or someone may have issues with lusting after women, but has no problem with shooting down the opportunity of stealing. We all have our weakness, we all have our temptations, and we all have our sins. None of us are perfect, we mess up sometimes. But that’s not to keep us from walking worthy of the call God has given us.

Though we might not be able to help the fact that we all are tempted by one thing or the other. We can stop entertaining the thoughts that come to our mind. When a thought comes, we have the ability to keep it and continue feeding the thought with our own thoughts. Or we can cast that thought down and refuse to continue thinking on it.

A perfect example of this was today I went to home depot to pick up a few things for work. The list did not include a new set of drills all though I believe it should have. Anyways I walk through the store and pick up all the material that I need and I proceed to walk to the check out line. When long and behold the drill set that I wanted was on an end cap, on sale. The thought immediately comes to my mind. “What,?! Rigid drill set for $159.99, that’s 20 dollars off!” but then I countered with “But my wife will kill me, I don’t even need them.” ( see, at that moment is where I should have cast down the thought of buying the drills and walked away.) (p.s but I didn’t) “But if I had the them I would use them on everything, I really need these.” I entertained the thought for several minutes before finally deciding that I really don’t have the extra cash for this, and walked away. But this is exactly what we do when we see something that is pleasing to the eye that we no we  need and we begin to dwell on it. The example doesn’t seem that bad, but if I went through with it I would have been of almost $200 out of my pocket and I would have an argument with my wife, etc. But what if the thing that is pleasing to the eye isn’t a drill, it’s a gentleman’s club, or  a drug. What then? Do you set there and think about satisfying  the temptation, or do you leave? This is where we need to learn how to cast down the small thoughts, that way when a dangerous thought like that comes up we have no problem casting it down.

Casting down thoughts are not hard to do, it’s as simple as saying to yourself. “I refuse to think on ……” and sometimes you will have to say it out loud because you mind will talk over you. Think about how Jesus resisted temptation, in the gospels it says that He spoke with scripture. When the thought surfaces, speak out with a scripture. If you don’t know any scripture, memorize a few so you can fight back. There is a battle to be fought in the arena of the mind, and you will be utterly destroyed if you do not know scripture to save you. People lose the battle everyday because they continue to feed their thoughts.  We need to make a conscious effort to discern our thoughts. To realize whether we should continue to think on them or cast them down. Remember you can’t help to be tempted, even Jesus was tempted. But Jesus never entertained them, as soon as the devil proposed something, Jesus always countered with a scripture.

So I challenge you to look up some battle verses and to do inventory of you mind. Throw out the thoughts that shouldn’t be in there. If One comes, don’t feed it just get rid of it.